Hello, friends!

Wow, so the girl, meaning me, went from literally having no life to having so much on her mind. I began university and my Japanese class is so hardcore! I need to do so much extra study to catch up to everyone (which I am procrastinating from, I hate myself sometimes)

I also spend a while trying to find work and it made me realize how hard it is to find work, I found some recently (finally), which got me thinking of everything I could have done before to help my current situation. Those thoughts inspired this little blog post!

1. Be More Confident and Choose Friends Well

I entered high school with the confidence of nothing, and I think once I found the right people to surround myself with it quickly grew. After graduation, you realize who your friends really are since a lot of mine just disappeared or gave up contact over such little things. High school forces you to see a number of people everyday for five days a week, so it's really the best time to be social and grow as a person socially. I was shy from the very start and it was only in the last two years I started to open up and speak out more, which meant I had lost a lot of time to meet and make friends. And when you are thrown into the real world, you need as much support as you can get.

2. Find Work

Following from No.1, I was always thinking that I was in no position to work, I was scared of disappointing people or making a mistake and not good at dealing with strangers. I think if I properly focused on getting myself in check and found some work or experience, I would have made life so much easier for myself. I guess I couldn't help it at the time, but it's just... why did I do that to myself.

Let's be serious, while you are in school where everything is structured and planned out, it's easier for yourself if you find work and build your skills before moving out into the real world against hundreds of other applicants. That's what I would tell my younger self, very, very strongly.

3. Take Study Seriously

I wasn't too lazy when it came to schoolwork and studied well, I just didn't push my limits and tried to build good study habits and skills. After graduation, I didn't do very much over the holidays and didn't maintain what knowledge I had, so when I entered my Japanese class in university, I had to quickly resurrect all I learnt from last year. Comparing the study I have now to what I did last year, high school is so much easier and I had no reason to complaining about the workload last year :')

4. Make the Most of Each Day

Sitting around and being a potato probably is not the best way to spend my youth, it would have been nice, if I was not working or studying, that I would have gone out and did some kind of activity, whether it's volunteering or taking some extra study. Just to be more productive, you know? 

5. Be Healthier and More Active

This probably sounds a little dumb to suggest I wish I was more healthier and active in high school, but if I was, I would have felt better on the inside and maybe the outside. If I learnt more about health and how to take care of myself, I would have had the positive results for a few years now and made more progress now. The earlier you start, the better of course.

These is a little reflection of mine, is there anything you wish you did when you were in school or any part of your life, previously? Of course, don't have too many regrets! Everything you have done before has helped bring you to where you are now :)

Enjoy life!

Nina

Hello lovelies! ♥

So! Due to recent experiences, I have been inspired to do another blog post that's a bit advice-y, more about friendship really.

High school seems to be a bit of a learning curve when it comes to friendships, especially since my circle of friends has changed quite a bit over the four-five years. Recently, I learned how important it is to speak up and be honest with what you think. I've always been sort of quiet and more of a listener/give advice person when people come to me with their problems rather than going to them directly and asking. This has been a problem for me since I need to learn to take initiative and solve the problem directly rather than waiting for the opportunity to do so.

This became clearer to me when there was some miscommunication and false rumors between my friends within my group which led to leaving people out and having tension between people in our group. I kept telling myself I should just sit everyone down and talk about it and clear everything up (since I'm always the neutral party). I spoke to the people affected to get their side of the story but it wasn't until we got some info that someone outside of the group was spreading these rumors and everything was solved very quickly.

Everything could have been solved straight away of we were all honest about our feelings and no misunderstandings would have been created. 

This is why it is important to speak up when something feels wrong - when I heard these rumors I straight away though "There is no way she would done that." 

It is most likely better to get your feelings out and argue about it than have everything kept a secret and being angry/upset in secret. Then you'll solve the issue, or at least know that someone is angry and why, rather than treat someone badly or leaving them out and they don't know why. That's a much worse feeling - not knowing why.

As my friend said herself, she just wanted to know what she did wrong to make people leave we out, especially since it turns out to be nothing. 

Everyone, lets treasure the people close to us and open up to them but by bit! We are never alone in this world and sometimes some things can't be done on our own :) If you open up and argue a bit - that's something to overcome and make the friendship stronger. We need to be kinder to each other in this world. Lets do our best! ^^

Nina ♥ 

So, I wrote saying about how much I like to help and give advice and such and then I rant about my feelings which weren't too happy, so! I thought I'd start off with my posts properly with just reminding all those single pringles out there, that it's okay!

Why? Well, I'm in my last year of high school and I have seen so many people struggle with relationships and crushes and let it get to them when they're only starting their life. I can't remember all of the advice I've given in the past about this and most of the time, they still don't listen to me.

I have never been in a relationship so most of the time I feel as though my advice and my words of wisdom don't really have that much power because of that. But, despite feeling like I am the only one so positive about their relationship status in high school I want to put time and effort into making others feeling good and then maybe one day, someone will do the same for me. I don't want to sound fake, I'm being serious.

One things that has become almost a stereotype I think you can call it, is 'friend zoning' and how 'nice guys/girls finish last'. We live in a world shared by billions of other people and one thing we need more of us nice people - I personally don't think they'll stay alone for long. We see examples everyday of how people fight all odds to be together or how people of all shapes, sizes and backgrounds fall in love. How could it not be possible for you or your friend and family members? 

I think it was last year I was in a group conversation with a few of my friends and a few guys friends. One of my guy friends was talking of his struggle with the girl he liked and how he was a nice guy who always came last, beer getting the girl. He was saying there was no

hope for him, that he is always alone and no one would ever like him. 

I said to him that there is so much more to life than relationships especially since we're all still high school and we have our lives ahead of us and its filled with opportunities and he is bound to find someone to share that with. I also said that while he is chasing girls that don't return his feelings leading him to feel this way, he could be missing out and out there there might be someone who is already thinks he's worth everything to them without even realizing it.

Because, my best friend who read everything had a crush on him at the time and he didn't even know.

My point is, while you might think you are alone, you are never alone you just don't realize it. Out there is someone who will love you for everything you are!  

You might have had several relationships and be thinking, you don't understand guy/girls. Well, the thing is how can you understand guys or girls when none of us are the same? It just means that someone out there is right for you. Even if a relationship fails, it just means you are one step closer to finding the one right for you. 

And for those who have never been in a relationship like me or haven't been in one for a while, it can be pretty hard. I'm the girl that people come to for relationship advice despite my lack of experience. I help people feel happy and that can help, sometimes people ask me for help but then leave me when I need them. But, unfortunately that is reality. There are so many people out there though, don't let it get to you!

I found a song called 'Darling of All Hearts' by Sunny Hill. They're a Korean girl group but reading the lyrics, it is literally my life story (there are captions) :

They talk about how people only come to them when they're suffering and then they go and it's a bit lonely, but still having fun with friends and realizing that being single isn't all that bad can bring you happiness~

But, think of it as a positive and keep pushing forward! I think that because of this, when I find the right guy, I will have no negative history to hold me back and I'll be able to give the relationship all I've got! 

Until then, enjoy the little things. Enjoy the friendship you share with people, enjoy spending time with family as they will accept you no matter what, enjoy eating and tasting new things, enjoy learning and nurturing your mind, enjoy a good book and escape into a new world, enjoy the outside world, challenge yourself and enjoy life! xoxo

Nina